Jessica Wesson
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  • There are so many queer women who have problems with finding a partner. One of the main ones is that there is 'not enough fish in the dating pool.' If you live in a big city like New Your or Los Angeles, you can meet quite many women from the LGBT community, but if you live in a town, this problem becomes apparent. Also, it is a common situation when a queer woman falls in love with her female friend, and they kiss on each other's cheeks and hold hand in hand, but then she says that she is straight. To avoid such situations and help lesbians find their true love, we prepared some dating tips concerning where you can meet lesbians.

    Dating Apps

    Thanks to social media development, we can get acquainted with different people no matter where they are. Online dating is becoming a more and more ordinary thing. Nowadays, there is a diversity of lesbian dating apps that have their pros and cons. It depends on you what lesbian dating app to use, but we strongly recommend you check whether it is legit or not. Here is our top of dating apps for lesbians:

    This online dating site has deserved the love and trust of thousands of lesbians. It has a good, modern interface, and it is very convenient for communication and finding a compatible woman. eHarmony is the oldest dating app in the world and almost from its creation, and it had been inclusive for all people from the LGBT+ community. All you need to signup here is to give your email address and to fill out a few sections in the questionnaire. Then you can start swiping different profiles of lesbians to find your special woman.

    User Base
    All Singles*
    Gender Ratio
    48% *
    52%*
    Popularity (Visits/Mo.)
    4.1 Million*
    Today's Deal

    EliteSingles is different from other dating sites in many features. First of all, there is no swiping feature. After you fill out the extensive questionnaire, the special match-making algorithm will give you a selection of lesbians' profiles, and it will save you time. If you want to find someone smart, you should download EliteSingles because more then half of its users have different degrees. If you don't find a partner here, then you'll make friends for sure.

    User Base
    All Singles*
    Gender Ratio
    48%*
    52%*
    Popularity (Visits/Mo.)
    2 Million*

    Zoosk is a good dating app for lesbians using which you can find queer women from the other half of the planet. It's because Zoosk numbers around 30 million singles and is available in 50 countries. Lesbians should specify while registering that they seek queer women, and the app will recommend you different female profiles every day.

    User Base
    All Singles*
    Gender Ratio
    48%*
    52%*
    Popularity (Visits/Mo.)
    28.9 Million*
    Today's Deal
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    One of the most top-rated in the niche, this dating site helps people over 50 meet other ones who want to start a relationship. OurTime.com is different from other dating sites because a new user doesn't have to enter many questions. One is to give only the basic information (age, interests, etc.). 

    It is also a great dating site for lesbians because it welcomes everybody and helps find them their true love. Users can easily navigate on OurTime.com. There are different sections on the main page, such as 'Notifications,' 'People in Your Area,' etc. If you want to continue looking for a future partner and communicating with your friends, you can open a quick chat section that allows you to combine these two deals. Members on the site are mostly friendly and follow the rules of ethics, so you can openly share your life principles with others.

    User Base
    All Singles*
    Gender Ratio
    46% *
    54%*
    Popularity (Visits/Mo.)
    1.4 Million*
    Today's Deal

    To our mind, this is the best way to get acquainted with queer women. Thousands of lesbians use various dating apps, and here are pros of them:

    • In a dating app, you can easier find people if you are shy. It's very embarrassing to talk to some stranger in the street, and it's difficult to choose the right words to impress the interlocutor.
    • You can learn much more about a person by reading his filled questionnaire and looking at all one's photos. It also saves you time.
    • You'll immediately know about one's first feelings for you, and if, in some cases, you are not attractive to one, you can start to chat with someone else.

    Lesbian Bars and Clubs

    If our arguments for getting acquainted with queer women online didn't convince you, then there are many ways to do it offline. There are many LGBT+ places to drink and make friends, but they are full of gays. The number of bars and clubs only for lesbians is not so large even in big cities, but if a lesbian searches for them on the internet, she'll find some of them. Lesbians purposefully go there knowing that they will be like a fish in the water. There are many lesbians who are just looking for a one-night-stand at such places, but some of them come there to find a future spouse. The lesbian bar is also suitable for shy lesbians who don't like to leave their comfort zone because the specific atmosphere and the wide choice of alcohol can relax almost anyone. But if there are no bars or clubs for lesbians in your area, come to any gay bar. Maybe you'll meet your dream girl in this great place.

    Lesbian Meetups and Pride Parades

    This is a good way to get acquainted with lesbians. Most of the participants of pride parades are strong-willed, smart, funny, and free. If you see a parade passing by, you won't be able to look away because they are bright and loud, and it can become a good memory for you both about your dating day. But do not deep into the event's action because someone wants to talk to you, which is your goal. Queer women also visit some local meetups where they discuss different issues or engage in some common cause. For learning about the nearest meetings, you can download Meetup. Using this app, you can also organize some meetings for lesbians by yourself.

    Sport

    Every day more and more people start to play sports. A healthy way of life became the mainstream; parks and sports clubs are full of sportsmen. Sport makes people feel cheerful, be fit, and look good. It's natural that not all female sportsmen are lesbians, but some of them are. A single is better to join a local female sports team, and even if she doesn't find a partner, she'll meet women who can recommend some familiar lesbians. Choose a sport based on your skills and interests. It is most useful to choose a sport where people interact with each other. This can be volleyball on a street playground near the house, or football, basketball, hockey, chess, and the like. The main thing is that you shouldn't feel hatred for it because everybody in a team will notice it.

    Almost every city has activists who are interested in weekend hiking. Join a similar group, and you will meet new interesting women there. The main thing is to remember personal safety, and when joining such groups, read reviews on the Internet, and ask your friends. Take care of yourself. Otherwise, you risk falling into the hands of scammers.

    LGBTQ+ Advocacy Group

    Every day, people who are different from all others struggle for their free, happy life. After learning about your sexual orientation, strangers often cross some ethical boundaries and hurt lesbians. They like to ask silly questions such as ‚How does it feel?‘ ‚How do you do it?’, ’Do you think sex without a penis can be named sex?’ and whether lesbians’ parents know about it. Many people suddenly discover the talents of psychologists, Freudians come out of all the cracks, and the whole world at some point is eager to send you to the phallus. Lesbians also need to somehow come to terms with the fact that even their friends can express ideas like "you'll get over it," "you'll meet your Prince." For example, my best friend has known me all my life, but still once asked me why I was so offended by men. Some strong queer women decided to start supporting each other and created many organizations. You can find the main offices and join the groups. You can help yourself and other queer women by volunteering or transferring money for the organization's development. All in all, it is a great place to meet strong and cheerful lesbians.

    Friends' Friends

    This is an excellent way to find your date. If online dating sites offer you some strangers and take much time to know someone, getting acquainted with one following the relative‘s advice will be much more effortless. There are some advantages to this method of meeting people. Firstly, your relatives or friends have already got acquainted with this person, so they can tell you much more than one could know about oneself. If a person has some bad habits or some dark spots in one’s biography,  it’s a high chance you’ll learn it by chatting with your mutual acquaintance. Secondly, both of you have more topics to talk about! You can tell each other some stories concerning a person who introduced you to each other, and then you'll come to other related topics. This method's disadvantage is that this common acquaintance can constantly meddle in your relationship, which is not very cool. But it's a special case, so be brave and ask your parents, sisters, brothers, or just friends to recommend you someone, and maybe one will become your life companion.

    FAQ

    Are there any free lesbian dating sites?

    It is difficult to meet lesbians because it is not so many of them. Still, queer women can search for singles on different dating apps (almost everywhere there is an option "I am a woman, looking for a woman," but it is very annoying to fight off hetero pairs who are looking for a second girl). And also, lesbians can go to the same places for finding a partner as straight people: to gyms, bars, clubs, volunteer centers. There are many both formal and intuitive signs that allow the trained eye to determine the sexual orientation of the person met. Separate insurance against embarrassment is the same method that heterosexuals use to reinsure themselves from trying to start a relationship with a person already in a couple: studying pages in social networks, hints, and flirting instead of direct conversation.

    How to meet lesbians?

    It is difficult to meet lesbians because it is not so many of them. Still, queer women can search for singles on different dating apps (almost everywhere there is an option "I am a woman, looking for a woman," but it is very annoying to fight off hetero pairs who are looking for a second girl). And also, lesbians can go to the same places for finding a partner as straight people: to gyms, bars, clubs, volunteer centers. There are many both formal and intuitive signs that allow the trained eye to determine the sexual orientation of the person met. Separate insurance against embarrassment is the same method that heterosexuals use to reinsure themselves from trying to start a relationship with a person already in a couple: studying pages in social networks, hints, and flirting instead of direct conversation.

    How to date a lesbian?

    Many people who are far from same-sex relationships use funny logic: "If two girls are in a relationship, you can cook twice as much borscht and make the apartment twice as clean." But same-sex relationships and heterosexual ones don't differ at all. It's like any healthy relationship: responsibilities are shared, plans are made, and so on. For example, if one partner hates cooking, her girlfriend cooks, who may be delighted with it, and the other can clean up or wash the dishes. Plus, you can wear each other's clothes and not bother, but some heterosexual women don't mind wearing their boyfriends' clothes. So life depends not on orientation, but on intelligence and the ability to find a common language.

    How to meet bisexual women?

    The ways to meet a bisexual woman are the same as to meet anybody. You can search for them using dating apps or going to public places (gyms, clubs, special meetups, etc.). The main thing is not to be passive and smile.

    Where to meet lesbian singles?

    There are different places where you can look for a soulmate; your task is to choose the most suitable for you. If you are a pupil, you should look for a date in a class. Examine your classmates, maybe your happiness is waiting for you just under your nose, and you have just never paid attention to it. If you are an adult, you can go to some meetings of people with a common interest with you, and it will be an excellent motivation to strike up a conversation. Also, you can go to a lesbian bar. Alcohol and a special atmosphere will liberate you.

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